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The loneliest job in business

January 25th, 2010 Posted in Building Community

While perhaps not the loneliest job in business, a Community Manager, especially the strategy building/implementing type is certainly at the top of the list of lonely career choices. Day in and day out the customers and community members you work with yell at you for being too company-focused, while your colleagues more often than not tell you that you’ve gone native, thinking too much about the company and not enough about them.

Former Community Manager Jeremiah Owyang calls out a few more challenges to being a Community Manager:

  • Many challenges are internal: Most companies want to hide customer issues, and shuffle them into existing support systems. Additionally, measuring ROI in new media when a company wants to keep the kimono shut, increasingly becomes a challenge.
  • Seemingly never ending job: Customers never stop having problems, and with the global internet, the questions, complains, and inquires never stop.
  • Emotional drain impacts lifestyle: The sheer emotional strain of dealing with a hundreds of yelling customers and the occasional trouble maker will take a strain on anyone.
  • Privacy risks in the world of transparency: In an effort to build trust with customers, they expose their real name exposing their personal –and family– privacy forever on.

These last two really stick out to me. I’ve been trying to dial back my public data access for a number of reasons, not least of which is general concerns around my 3 year old daughter. It’s nearly impossible. When I signed up to do community work in 2000, I had no idea that it would be a permanent state that I’d basically never be able to quit.

But perhaps the most challenge aspect of the job for me was the sheer time involved. When do fans and customers tend to actually do stuff related to their communities of interest? Evenings and weekends… i.e. when they’re not at work. When do they put on events? Holidays, when there’s plenty of time off to enjoy them. When I was at LEGO, I rarely had a holiday weekend at home – most of them were spent on the road, attending and supporting fan events. I’m not complaining, but I’d bet my family certainly would have.

When I was considering leaving LEGO, I had lunch with the always genius Guy Kawasaki. We were talking about my general confusion about leaving a company as great as LEGO and a job as amazingly fun as a LEGO Community Manager. When I asked how long someone can be productive as a CM, and his answer was brilliant and spot on: “If you make it to 3 years, you’re good. If you make it 4 years, you’re amazing. If you make it to 5 years, you’re stupid.” Guy was rightly pointing out that that much stress, 24 hours a day, being caught in between two parties who never truly believe you’re looking out for their interests has a shelf life.

Don’t get me wrong, I loved my job and I’d do it all over again without thinking twice.

As a way to celebrate this vastly underrated job, Jeremiah has kicked off a novel concept: Community Manager Appreciation Day #CMAD – a day focused on recognizing those in our companies, communities, or daily contacts that have done great work at keeping positive in the face of a very tough job.

So head over to Jeremiah’s site and call out someone you think is doing great community management work. Or use the comments here. Or post on twitter. Or send a postcard. Just thank a Community Manager. It really does help.


  • FWIW- I think any job you do for a long time with little change can become dull. I have found that as I look to change our strategy quarterly to refocus on delivering the most value to our company it creates new projects and I get to work with new and interesting people. I guess it is the continued evolution that helps me...
  • Great points, and I love Guy's summary. One request: can we please drop the use of the buzzword term "open kimono"? It makes women, in the room, and many Asians, really uncomfortable. Try "open shorts" or "dropped trou" instead. i.e. "We want to be completely open shorts about this." It's funnier. Plus you won't get called onto the carpet by HR for it. Just watchin' your back for you.
  • great post!
  • Amen, brother!

    This is my favorite line of the whole post, b/c it's incredibly true and no one ever says it out loud: "being caught in between two parties who never truly believe you’re looking out for their interests has a shelf life."

    I did 3.5 years as the Leader of the TurboTax Inner Circle and it was definitely time to move to my next role. According to Guy's quote/math, does that make me "G-mazing?"

    That said, there is virtually nothing I do now as the Social Media Marketing Manager that my role with the Inner Circle did not prepare me for: I know all the product people and process, how to talk to *really* angry customers (and really happy ones), and generally how to make the customer's voice heard at the highest level, when I need to.

    Really enjoyed this post - thanks for writing it.
  • Wow... I never really thought about this aspect of being a CM.

    I worked for a staffing company for several years. It was basically the same thing. Both sides thought you should be 100% on their side in negotiating terms and jobs. Both sides always assumed we were siding with the other. And trying to make everyone happy only made us 100% miserable. Three years was the average shelf life before the smart ones took their skills war wounds and moved on. Four years was reserved for people moving up the ladder. If you made it to five years, you were likely in management and you were never getting out, welcome to hell.
  • Funny that the experiences/timelines were so similar, yet the jobs so different. In many ways they're both based in the same world (helping people have a better life in some aspect). But you'd be hard pressed, I'd imagine, to find a community manager who has such loathing for their gig.

    I wonder why?
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    I'm new to Community Management for @Whrrl (four months), and I have to say Guy's comments scare me a bit! As in, "Well I thought this was my dream job, but I'll potentially be super burnt out in five years." Yikes. :D Thanks for your insights, Jake. Happy Comm Manager Appreciation Day!
  • Well, keep in mind that the reference was to day-to-day, face-to-face work. Hopefully in 5 years, you'll have been so successful you'll have a staff of people working under you and you'll be on to grander things. Like the take over of the wooooorld! :)
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